FAQs

What is coaching?
The International Coach Federation defines coaching as follows: “Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs.  They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful.  The coach's job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.”
 
How is coaching different from therapy?
Coach University defines the difference between Coaching and Therapy as follows:  “Therapy focuses on the life an individual is living as related to past, often childhood issues.  Therapy focuses on accompanying feelings and emotions, patterns of behavior and any self-destructive tendencies.  A typical outcome of therapy is healing the individual, the creation of more useful and healthy coping skills, and dealing with current issues and challenges.  
 
"Coaching focuses on what a person wants, beginning in the present and moving forward, developing the person to engage life with new behaviors and ultimately to achieve his or her definition of success.  It can be useful for the coachee to access information or knowledge from the past in order to identify past patterns of behavior that do not produce the preferred outcome..."

What are universal principles and how do these work on a practical level?
Universal principles are faith friendly & faith neutral teachings or laws or practices based on the world's religious, spiritual, & humanist traditions that when intentionally applied to our lives, can help us find greater peace, freedom and success along with more desirable outcomes. The premise is that just as there are physical laws, like gravity, there are also universal principles that we can test out, such as “Whatever we focus on expands” and “We reap what we sow”, “What goes around comes around” and “Like attracts like”. I would love to help you learn and apply a universal principle or principles to a challenge or obstacle you're currently facing and can tell you more about these principles and how they work during a complimentary consultation.

What is Spiritual Intelligence and why do I need it?
According to Cindy Wigglesworth, the author of "SQ21: The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence" Spiritual Intelligence is “The ability to behave with wisdom and compassion, while maintaining inner and outer peace, regardless of the situation.”

Imagine what your life would be like if you more often acted with wisdom (vs. ignorance or thoughtlessness) and compassion (vs. indifference or ill will); and were a role model for others to do the same? Who wouldn’t benefit from that?

How does coaching work?
It depends if you hire me or your organization does. In both cases I offer a 20-30 minute complimentary consultation so I can learn more about your goals and objectives and you can learn a little about me. Then if I feel like we could be a good match to work together, I’ll invite you to a one hour complimentary clarity session where we will focus on one thing you want to create in the next 6-12 months and an obstacle standing in your way.  If it still feels like a good fit, I’ll invite you to enroll in one of my coaching packages. There is no pressure to enroll. My goal is to serve you during the one hour session and for you to walk away with value.

How much does it cost?
~ One-on-one: The fee varies depending on the number of sessions, and length of commitment.
 
What tools do you use in our coaching?
Along with being certified in Emotional Intelligence, Spiritual Intelligence, Introduction to World Religions, and having 13+ years of experience coaching and facilitating cross-cultural programs for executives, managers and their spouses/partners, I've found that to be the most effective and happy in one's life, it helps tremendously to learn and apply the skills from four key areas of intelligence: Physical, Emotional, Cultural and Spiritual.

Physical Intelligence (PQ): the ability to listen to the subtle signals your body gives you, then respond wisely. A leader who is tired or sick due to lack of sleep or exercise can't guide a business towards physical fitness. A leader operating at less than full capacity can't offer the passion, vision or ethical guidance a company needs. Stephen Covey has emphasized the importance of this in his book "The Eighth Habit". 

Cultural Intelligence (CQ): the capability to relate and work effectively across cultures. This includes knowledge of cultural differences in values and communication styles; essential to building bridges and relationships. Without this knowledge and its application, you can't communicate, negotiate, or get things done effectively across borders.
 
Emotional Intelligence (EQ): the ability to understand and manage your emotions while displaying emotional sensitivity towards others, this includes the ability to communicate effectively. Leaders who lose their temper easily or don't listen or communicate well aren't able to gain the trust or respect they need to get things done with and through others.

Spiritual Intelligence (SQ): "The ability to behave with wisdom and compassion while maintaining inner and outer peace regardless of the situation" (Cindy Wigglesworth, www.deepchange.com) This means acting from your best self vs. ego-self and it's critical when working in an increasingly complex world with multiple stakeholders and diverse perspectives. How you show up affects morale, turnover, and your ability to influence others, as well as the bottom line. It's the difference between being an energy infuser or energy drain on the people around you. I use the SQ21 assessment with clients to self-assess on 21 skills of spiritual intelligence; along with wisdom from Cindy’s book “SQ21: The 21 Skills of Spiritual Intelligence”.

Additional Tools:
~ Neurolinguistic Programming & Gestalt Psychology
~ Exercises and processes that have helped me and my clients over 17 years in the areas of self-help, career transition, & personal growth, etc.
~ Cross-cultural communication skills & values assessments

How do I get in touch with you?
You can call me at 828-989-1980 (mobile), 828-350-9300 or email me at: barbara@mycoachbarbara.com
 
Are my sessions and communication with you confidential?
 
Definitely. I also don't give out client names without your permission.